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Avoiding these Watch-out Words; Guaranteed to Empower Your Voice

Thursday, May 30, 2024 by Alyssa Martin | Mindset

    Welcome to our Vocal Empowerment blog! Here, we're all about the power of words and how they shape our mindset. Ever notice how certain words like "should" and "too" sneakily disempower us? Or how thinking in extremes like "always" and "never" can hold us back? Avoid these word pitfalls and learn to speak and think in ways that boost your confidence! Get ready to own your vocal superpower! ðŸŽ¤ðŸ’ª #VocalEmpowerment

Word(s)

Example

Watch-out

Consider

Replacement

too

I’m too skinny.

You are too loud.

labels place judgment or criticism

consider everyone’s uniqueness, extend understanding

My body is thin right now.

Do you think you could speak softer?

should

should practice more.

“should” feels like obligation or guilt

“could” gives you the power of choice

I could practice more.

shouldn’t have

shouldn’t have done that.

makes you wrong or bad

decipher what you learned and focus forward

I learned from the experience and I can do something different next time.

you

You get to a point where it’s frustrating.

“you” projects outward onto others

own your feelings and opinions by using I-statements

I get to a point where I’m feeling frustrated.

always / never / everybody

You never want to go outside.

Everybody is so rude here.

overgeneralizing uses little info to make big assumptions

be specific

When do you like to go outside?

When I said “hi” it seemed they ignored me.

this is the worst

This is a total failure.

“black & white” or “all-or-nothing thinking” can be perfectionism

allow gray areas

I see things that were well done, along with what could be improved.

can’t

can’t do it.

might be true… or is it that you “won’t”?

decide what you can do

It's up to me to make it happen if I choose.

it doesn’t count / Yes, but…

I passed the test, but only because it was easy.

disqualifying the positive undermines good attributes and experiences

it’s safe to accept the good about you & others

I passed the test and I feel good about it.

not accepting a compliment

You’re my friend; you have to say that.

devalues other people’s opinions

receive the compliment as a gift and show gratitude

Thank you. I’m taking that into my heart.

I’m sorry for being a burden / I’m fine / It’s fine

I’m sorry for being a burden.

manipulating others with guilt is an unhealthy pattern

bravely and lovingly share your feelings if the other person is open to it

I’m feeling bad that I need to ask for your help again.

habit of apologizing

I’m sorry, I’m sorry.

taking excessive responsibility depletes confidence

pause and reflect on whether apologizing is true to yourself

(if yes) I’m sorry. Thank you for ___. How can I fix it?


In addition to the above, it’s helpful if we can reframe our negative self-talk. Here are some examples:

  • I’m too old. >> I’m going to keep learning more every day I’m alive.
  • I’m so stupid. >> I made an error and I will learn from it and improve.
  • I’m such a basket-case. >> I’m very in touch with my emotions.


#vocalempowerment #mindsetshift #findyourvoice

The Singer's Mindset: Vocal Power Affirmations

Sunday, May 26, 2024 by Alyssa Martin | Mindset


In the journey of self-discovery as a singer, embracing your unique voice is a superpower. These affirmations will help you love your voice, find your sound, and express yourself freely amidst self-doubt.


  • I am ready to share my voice.
  • I enjoy the sound of my voice. I am willing to learn to love my voice. 
  • The more I am myself, the more people love and respect me, and the more I love and respect myself.  
  • Every day I do my best knowing that “my best” may be different on any given day.
  • In every moment I create something new. 
  • I have fun when I let go and enjoy the moment. 
  • I now move beyond my fear and limitations into unexplored territory knowing I am safe. 
  • It’s safe for me to express myself.
  • I’m having so much fun learning to support my voice.
  • I’m having so much fun finding my voice.
  • I use my voice lovingly and with confidence.
  • I’m having so much fun singing. 
  • I love that I get to choose how I want to use my voice.  
  • I quickly pick up new concepts.
  • I feel good about my voice. I keep getting better. 
  • I love to sing. I love what it does for me. I love what it does for others.


#vocalempowerment #affirmations #affirmationsforsingers #sing #vocalcoach

Visualize Your Future

Sunday, February 4, 2024 by Alyssa Martin | Mindset

In 1978, I saw a commercial for the Play-Doh Barber Shop set. The Play-Doh would squish through little holes in the dolls’ heads to create hair and beards of blue and red, and yellow that you could trim with scissors! I was seven years old and loved that ad. Over forty years later, I can still picture it…

Advertisers sure are smart. They know that we’ll want what we want when we see it. And when we see it, we begin to feel it. Images become a part of ourselves, and we internalize what we see into part of our experience.

“Everything you can imagine is real.” – Pablo Picasso

The good news is that we can take control and intentionally use our imagination to picture ideal life scenarios. What improvements would you like to see in your finances, love life, work-life balance, home improvements, state of mind, health, and spiritual wellness?

Intentional positive imagination, referred to as VISUALIZATION, is an effective practice for making significant improvements in our lives. Visualizing your needs and wants to be actualized requires spending time inwardly with yourself. The better you know yourself, the more confident you become, and the firmer your boundaries are of what you allow into your life. This is a great thing!

Visualization is also a form of meditation and can help you feel grounded and calm. What does it mean to feel grounded? When you are grounded, you feel safe and secure in your own skin and within your life. It means you feel stabilized in the present moment so that you can handle the ups and downs of life. You know challenges are opportunities in disguise.

“A vision that we believe in completely can change any situation into an opportunity for growth.” – Alexandra Collins Dickerman

I never did get the Play-Doh Barber Shop. I actually didn’t even seriously ask my parents for it. I didn’t feel worthy, and I didn’t want my parents to waste the money on what I felt might just be a frivolous toy. Nowadays, I’ve got a few more tools up my sleeve.

First, I’m willing to admit to what I need and want. Sometimes it’s scary, but I know I have my favorite tools of visualization and positive affirmation. I take the time to imagine the best possible outcome, then I allow life to bring me that or something even better.

Will you ask for what you need? For what you want? Ask yourself, “Is there something I want that I feel I’m not getting? How would I like my life to be different?” Remember, your desires do not have to be tangible things like a new car. It could be that you desire greater inner peace or more clarity about your life path.

Have you ever created a Vision Board? Vision Boards or Dream Boards are very popular because they work and are a great way to help you visualize your future. They allow you to see your dream as a reality and keep your attention focused on your goals and intentions.

Creating a vision board engages more senses than simply writing down your goals. Working with images places your future vision into your subconscious, where you naturally start making decisions that lead to action. These actions can then produce the results you desire.

Do you want to Visualize Your Future? Try Alyssa’s Vision Board Workshop. Learn More

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